What Happened When Three Women Watched Porn For The First Time The first time can be so awkward — and hilarious. Women who have never watched porn view adult film classics like “Deep Throat” and “Debbie Does Dallas” in this BuzzFeed video. Their reactions range from amusement to disbelief — “that’s got to be fake.” The video cites a study indicating that just 8 percent of women have seen pornography online. But perhaps the other 92 percent should reconsider. According to a small social media survey of its followers by sex toy company Ann Summers, couples who watched X-rated films together said they felt more committed. And 85 percent of women said porn helped them escape. If sexual release is the goal, there’s more good news: Dr. Lauren Streicher, an Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University and author of “Sex Rx: Hormones Health And Your Best Sex Ever,” says masturbation helps women sleep, de-stress and be more comfortable with their bodies.
Last month, I wrote a story lamenting the sorry lack of quality porn for women. I am now here to tell you… I was wrong. Very wrong. Shamefully wrong. And I’m not too proud to admit it. Within days of the post going up, I was inundated with emails and tweets gently telling me just how wrong I was, and from those who know best: women in the trenches of the adult film industry, working tirelessly to create good porn for other women like me. And just like that, my frustrated lament became an earnest education. In the mail, I received–much to the amusement of my partner–a box of porn DVDs. They were sent by Jacky St. James, one of those women on the frontlines of female-oriented adult film production. I immediately curled up on the couch to watch a rom-com sex romp called The Friend Zone. And, well… it was good. Like, really good. It had legitimate production values. The acting ranged from just fine to truly impressive. The script was funnier than most mainstream rom-coms in theaters today (Hollywood producers, take note). And… what’s this? Is that a sex scene involving people who actually seem to care about one another? Is that woman being respected as she’s being pleasured? Is that a condom I see? The experience was, in a word, a revelation, satisfying in every desired way. After The Friend Zone, I dove in to the erotica of FrolicMe, featuring gorgeously rendered shots of men and women in the throes of passion, including one video of a woman, bathed in warm lighting, pleasuring herself beside the window of her tranquil country home. Maybe I’m the only woman in the world who was unaware content of such quality actually existed. Maybe I’m the only one who had spent many a frustrated nights on Pornhub, marveling at how far removed from woman-friendly something labeled “woman-friendly” could be. But I’m going to guess I’m not alone; that other women, too, have clicked their way through a barrage of cheap, degrading, not-in-the-least-bit-arousing porn videos, feeling not only sexually unfulfilled, but frustrated by an industry’s unconscionable inability to respect the sexual desires of women–not to mention men interested in sex with emotional resonance and actual passion. It was an education I needed to share, so I reached out to four of the women who led me to this sexual awakening, and probed […]
Kelly Shibari, a big, beautiful woman, adult film actress, and sexual educator for gals of every size has the honor of being featured on Penthouse in all her rock and roll glory proving once and for all that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and ethnicities. The June issue hit the stands today everywhere Penthouse products are sold (Barns and Noble, 7-Eleven, etc). Yes, you read that correctly. The June issue is out at the end of April. Go figure! And it’s about time adult magazines give readers more than just the expected cookie-cutter centerfolds! I mean, who wants to stick to just one flavor ad nauseum when there are so many tasty choices to choose from? Even the cover is a departure from the usual boudoir chic showing Shibari looking as if she’s about to blow the roof off an arena at her own concert. “It’s not the picture I would’ve picked” laughs Shibari. “Penthouse – everyone is usually scantily clad – very much in lingerie, you know what I mean, bikinis and such, and the managing editor, Eric (Danville) was like ‘I want THAT photo to be on the cover’, and I was like, “Okay”. The photo is a reflection, according to Shibari, of Danville’s own rock and roll personality. It’s theatrical, commanding, and in-your-face. It’s also intriguing and inviting which will seduce and lure the curious and please those who revel in the fuller figure. “It’s a striking cover, and I’m very, very happy with it.” Kelly Shibari was not an unknown to Penthouse and Danville. She’s known some of the players for the past few years collaborating on projects and public relations. So when the decision by Penthouse was made to finally shake things up, Shibari was the first to come to mind. “They’ve profiled non-adult performers in the past, BDSM performers like my friend January Seraph for their main magazine, but they’ve never really touched on a lot of Alt or non-mainstream performers, and…I don’t know if it’s because I’m a little bit different. I’m older. So my take on adult entertainment is kinda steeped in – to the point, I used to watch in the 90s and the late 80s. The kind of porn I watched was for entertainment, kind of just fantasy-based storylines so it wasn’t meant to be a replacement for sex education. A lot of kids these days watch a lot […]